General Swinging Etiquette
This page is a guide for people new to the swinging scene, like everything in life, things go more smoothly when you know the rules that everyone else are playing by.
Advertisers:
- Please respond to all e-mails you receive from other swingers.
- Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.
- It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.
- If you are an escort advertising for business please advertise only in the "Here to Make Money" or "Paid" sections. If you are an escort advertising for play friends please use a different e-mail address from that used for your business. If I am made aware of swingers being asked for payment when responding to ads outside the escort area I will delete the ad.
Respondents:
- Always be polite.
- Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.
- Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.
- If you enclose a picture show your face - most swingers like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad).
- Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.
- If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.
We have of course missed many points, if you spot something we have missed or got wrong please drop us a line so we can update this page.